When you got married, it was probably the happiest day of your life. You two were so in love, you can barely remember who was at the wedding because all you could see was your fabulous groom. You knew you would always be in love and this truly was till dєαth do you part.
Then, you found out that your husband was seeing another woman. Not only that, but he says he’s in love with her and not you. What happened? How could your perfect marriage go so terribly wrong? We are going to tell you the 8 main reasons that married men end up in love with someone else. The truth might hurt, ladies, but this is information you need to know.
1. Men Love to Play
No matter how good your marriage might be, there is no denying that the everyday life of work, kids, sleep, and back to work, gets boring. Men like excitement, men love the chase, and, perhaps most of all, men like to play. Men will seek out other women who are not encumbered with children or those who make time in their schedule for fun. He is probably taking this woman to ball games, playing video games in her apartment, and dancing the night away. If you don’t make time for fun and games in your marriage, your man will look elsewhere for it and fall in love with someone else.
2. Men Hate Helpless Women
While a woman in need temporarily ( “Can you fix my car”) makes a man feel useful and proud, the woman who is constantly helpless and can’t seem to do anything for herself will eventually turn a man off. Men want to please you and feel needed, but only to a certain point. Asking him to unclog the kitchen sink is fine, but crying day after day that your life is a mess and can he make dinner, do the dishes, put the kids to bed because you just can’t deal with it, is sure to send your man to another woman’s arms.
3. He is looking for a change
After a few years into the marriage, a man can find himself feeling bored of the status quo (existing state of affairs). The stability of the relationship might make him feel stagnant instead of secure. In an effort to spice up his life, he might stray in search of an єхtrαmαrítαl αffαír.
4. He can’t deal with tears
A man can find his woman’s cry extremely disturbing and unsettling. It often puts him in a spot, making him feel guilty, responsible, and weak. Since a man feels uncomfortable around tears, he begins finding ways to run away from all the whining. Thus, creating a distance between him and his significant other.
5. Back to adolescence
Married men come to a phase where they might make the spouse feel like a parent – be it making excuses to stay out late, being overprotective about their phone, or rebelling against duties of a committed relationship. Husbands usually struggle through this phase of second adolescence, at times, leading them to stray.
6. He may show signs of narcissism
More often than not, partners who chєαt lack empathy. Whenever a husband cheats, he has a tinge of narcissistic quality in his personality. He does not think through the consequences of his actions on his loved ones. Because, at that moment, he is more bothered about looking for his own happiness, even if it is at the cost of hurting others.
7. He is looking for someone who understands
Generally, men find it hard to express themselves. Hence, it is important for them to find an understanding life partner; someone who will be there for them through their thick and thin. If a husband fails to find a non-judgmental and understanding friend in his life partner, he begins looking for it elsewhere.
8. He wants an Independent Woman
A man does feel strong when his wife depends on him for small things like opening the jar lid or fixing the kitchen light. However, a husband feels happier and more relaxed when his significant other has a life of her own – be it having her own job, hanging out with her own set of friends, or breezing through a few household chores like a pro.
Couples can decide to move forward after an αffαír, either together or apart. It depends on the individual’s value system, ability to forgive, and patience to work through their differences. However, what is essential is to communicate openly with each other and learn from it.